People Don't Do Things for No Reason

In this first half of our school-choice-two-parter, we talk about our backgrounds with education and some of the choices we're making for our kids with regard to their educations, and why we feel education participation, however we do that, is an important piece of how we contribute to our communities.

Unless It's a Charter School!

In this first half of our school-choice-two-parter, we talk about our backgrounds with education and some of the choices we're making for our kids with regard to their educations, and why we feel education participation, however we do that, is an important piece of how we contribute to our communities.

Half-Assed Attachment Parenting

In this episode, we discuss parenting philosophies, things that have and haven’t worked for us, and how we protect our physical autonomy without pushing our kids away. We also discuss the Alanis Morissette profile in Self Magazine, especially her four boundaries:

  • You can't tell me what I'm thinking, 

  • you can't tell me what I'm feeling, 

  • you can't fucking touch my body/you can't do anything with my body, 

  • and don't touch my stuff.

I sing / of a world where bullets melt into bells

Now the bells speak with their tongues of bronze. 

Now the bells open their mouths of bronze to say: 

Listen to the bells a world away. Listen to the bell in the ruins 

of a city where children gathered copper shells like beach glass, 

and the copper boiled in the foundry, and the bell born

in the foundry says: I was born of bullets, but now I sing

of a world where bullets melt into bells.

-Martín Espada | Heal the Cracks in the Bell of the World

Networking Got You Anxious? Try This Three-Step Guide.

The idea of selling yourself and the things you do, trying to shake hands and seem like the "right" version of yourself, can be deeply intimidating. Even worse, it's almost inevitable that everybody is going to be better at it than you are, more comfortable and more natural, and they're definitely going to notice that you're uncomfortable, that you're bored with the small talk, that you're not prepared enough.

Or, you know, not…

The One Who Smiled Back

The river is famous to the fish.

The loud voice is famous to silence,   
which knew it would inherit the earth   
before anybody said so.   

The cat sleeping on the fence is famous to the birds   
watching him from the birdhouse.   

The tear is famous, briefly, to the cheek.   

The idea you carry close to your bosom   
is famous to your bosom.   

The boot is famous to the earth,   
more famous than the dress shoe,   
which is famous only to floors.

The bent photograph is famous to the one who carries it   
and not at all famous to the one who is pictured.   

I want to be famous to shuffling men   
who smile while crossing streets,   
sticky children in grocery lines,   
famous as the one who smiled back.

I want to be famous in the way a pulley is famous,   
or a buttonhole, not because it did anything spectacular,   
but because it never forgot what it could do.

-Naomi Shihab Nye | Famous

No Matter How Slowly They Fell

A boy told me

if he roller-skated fast enough

his loneliness couldn’t catch up to him,

the best reason I ever heard

for trying to be a champion.

What I wonder tonight

pedaling hard down King William Street

is if it translates to bicycles.

A victory! To leave your loneliness

panting behind you on some street corner

while you float free into a cloud of sudden azaleas,

pink petals that have never felt loneliness,

no matter how slowly they fell.

-Naomi Shihab Nye | The Rider

The Parent Rap 101: Throw Mayonnaise at the Wall and See What Sticks

Beans is having a little bit of trouble gaining weight, and figuring out how to manage that is pushing up against Anna’s complicated issues with food. Sara reflects on her similar experiences when attempting to breastfeed Chips. Anna and Sara discuss body image, how the cult of breastfeeding is bullshit*, and how having kids can just bring up all your Stuff. .

*We may use the phrase “breastfeeding is bullshit,” by which we do NOT mean that breastfeeding isn’t awesome (when it works), only that the pressure to breastfeed at all costs can be really, really damaging to the people encouraged to do it, and sometimes it’s more important to enjoy being with your baby than it is to feed them in a particular way.